I found this GREAT comment by browing the NoFap Reddit community for a while. I edited some of it only to fix some unavoidable grammatical issues. Enjoy reading it full.
Before No Nut November I used to fap 1-2 times almost everyday. I was severe porn addicted, but i had one thing that changed this: HOPE. I entered the NNN with so much hope that made me keep my streak until today, 23 days. (I slipped off today ). Before this streak my longest was only one week. So since 10 years old i have never resisted more than 7 days.
After my relapse (today) I realised that not the relapse is the problem, but your mentality. After that relpase, I thought about my progress I have made till today. I used to fap everyday. And now, I made my longest streak in my life.
But here is where I wanted to come: It is not about the streak or the days. Is about the hard work you put in. Yes, I relapsed today but this means nothing to me, it was just a failure after lot successful days. It is just a match lost after a full season of endless winnings. It happens.
You have to get up and keep pushing forward, but not with NoFap in mind. You have to move on to achieve your goals and become the best version of yourself and accept your failures.
If you don't fail you don't win.
How can you be the best runner without being once on the last place in a course?
I am imagining my relapse as if I were on the second place in a running competition, knowing that once I was on the last place. On the next competition, I will still be on the second place, or even the third place, but I have one thing that will make me the on on the first place: Training.
Keep pushing forward, fight your urges. Whenever you feel very down, look up for your progress. Make time for yourself and you will see, how important it really is. Imagine that there are people who is not even interesed in quitting their addiction. You are the best because, you discovered NoFap and found this subreddit. Here are people who fight to become the best version of themselves, and if they cannot, they still make some remarkable progresses.
Also, there are people in the world who exactly knows what an addiction is and encourage it only for their concepts and pleasure. It is obvious that on PornHub, there will only be some girls who say, mastrubating on some pixels is good. But it is more obvious that here, on self-improvement communities, are people who say that it is much better to go outside and take some fresh air, feel the sun all over the skin and be grateful that you can see another beautiful day.
Learn to see what a blind person cannot
and hear what a deaf person cannot. You have to.
Use your healty body on beautiful things, because you will eventually die one day!
Go out with the boys and play some football even if you are not good at it.
It is much better to be a Novice/noob at football than being a Pro at fapping.
I'm begging you, and I say this from the bottom of my heart.
LIVE OUR LIFE!
I know that It is normal to go to PornHub and fap.
NO! THAT'S NOT A NATURAL THING.
What is natural is meeting a real girl and feeling her presence even if she is not here. Holding a girl hands with love can't compare with imagining your favourite Porn-actress by placing hand on your dick.
It is much better to fail talking to a girl than doing dirty stuffs at home with your own hand.
And i know, it is very hard to talk to a girl. Because you associated girls with Porn and this is so bad! When I was addicted, I met a girl: she was so beautiful and sweet, I liked her so much but I lost her due to my addiction. When I was with her, I was only thinking about putting my hand on her boobs or ass, and I did it so directly that she slapped on my face. I lost a wifematerial girl.
BUT now, I am talking with a girl much better than that one. We are not having a relation but, just a smile from her can make my day much more beautiful and I had never thought anything dirty about her. I love her as if she were my sister. And when the time will come to be together, I will dedicate my time and do whatever it takes to make her happy. A single hugging from her make me realise, how beautiful is the life without Porn.
To conclude, guys, make up your minds and think about what truly means to live your life.
Do whatever it takes to live the natural, the true feeling in this life.
DON'T WAIT THE SUN COME AT YOUR WINDOW.
BRING IT YOURSELF!
Comments
Post a Comment